Squirting vs. Cumming: What’s the Real Difference?

You may be wondering if cumming and squirting are actually the same thing. Warning: these are not the same thing.

"Dude, I was going all out, thinking I was nailing it, but she'd just lie there, kind of spaced out," admitted one customer. I was quite irritated and unsure of whether I was even doing it correctly.

Isn't that sad? But don't worry, we'll take care of you just like we took care of him. Let's examine what's actually happening to her body.

Let's Start With Squirting

Squirting, which is frequently associated with G-spot play, is the release of fluid through the urethra during strong sexual stimulation.

It's crucial to remember that the fluid is a special mixture created during heightened arousal and is not simply "diluted urine."

Squirting is a response to particular stimulation rather than a sign of an orgasm, and each woman feels it differently.

What Causes Squirting To Happen?

Usually, G-spot stimulation causes squirting. The Grafenberg spot, often known as the G-spot, is situated on the front wall a few inches within the vaginal canal.

It encircles the urethra and, with the correct rhythm and pressure, can provide a strong sensation of fullness and a need to expel fluid.

This reaction can be elicited by your fingers, sex toys, or even your penis, but keep in mind that it's important to find a rhythmic, consistent motion that suits her rather than simply pounding the spot.

What’s Happening Inside Her Brain during Squirting?

When squirting happens, her brain releases a rush of oxytocin, dopamine, and prolactin.

Oxytocin, the "love hormone," deepens the sense of connection, while dopamine floods her with pleasure. Prolactin comes in after the release, bringing that calm, satisfied feeling.

This unique hormonal blend is why squirting can be such an incredibly pleasurable experience for many women.

What Exactly Is the Fluid Released During Squirting?

The fluid involved in squirting comes from the bladder and contains water, prostate-specific antigen (PSA), glucose, and urea—though it’s different from urine in concentration.

PSA is a key marker here, also found in male ejaculate, pointing to the role of the female prostate (Skene's glands) in this process. The fluid is typically clear, tastes sweet and the amount can vary from a small trickle to a full-on gush.

This is distinct from regular vaginal lubrication, which comes from the Bartholin's glands.

How Can You Tell If She’s Squirting?

Marco skillfully making Ivy squirt, with liquid splashing as they share an intimate moment.
Wondering if she’s squirting? Look for these signs that set it apart from other forms of pleasure.

Physical Cues

You’ll notice an increase in vaginal lubrication, a swollen G-spot, and rhythmic contractions in her pelvic floor muscles. Some women describe feeling a pressure similar to the urge to pee just before squirting. It can happen suddenly, like opening a floodgate, or it might trickle out more subtly. Pay attention to her body's cues—arching her back, clenching hands, or a deep, almost guttural moan can signal that squirting is on the way.

Emotional Cues

Squirting can stir up a mix of emotions. Some women feel a wave of joy and relaxation, while others might experience a mix of other emotions such as sadness, anger, surprise or even a bit of self-consciousness, especially if it's their first time. This is your moment to reassure her—squirting is a natural, beautiful response to pleasure.

What Does She Actually Feel During Squirting?

The sensations during squirting vary, but it’s often described as a building pressure in the pelvic region, followed by a deep, powerful release. Some women link it to an "explosive" wave of warmth that spreads through the lower body.

It’s different from the pulsing contractions of a regular orgasm—more about a release than a peak.

With squirting covered, let’s move on to orgasming, let’s dive into orgasming and how it differs in both sensation and experience.

Moving On To Cumming & Female Ejaculation

Marco is nibbling on Ivy's neck, she moans in bliss while she is cumming hard.
Cumming, or female ejaculation, is the release of fluid through the Skenes ducts during orgasm, typically associated with clitoral and vaginal stimulation.

It’s that peak moment when her body is flooded with intense pleasure. This fluid, containing components from the Skene’s glands—the female prostate—is different from squirt juice and generally released in smaller amounts.

What Causes Female Ejaculation to Happen?

Female ejaculation happens through a mix of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Direct clitoral pressure ramps up blood flow, causing the Skene’s glands to swell.

When combined with penetrative sex, sex toys, or manual stimulation, the right rhythm, depth, and speed can lead to an intense climax.

Pelvic floor contractions during orgasm help the fluid to ooze out of the Skenes ducts.

What’s Happening Inside Her Brain When She Cums?

During orgasm, her brain goes into overdrive, releasing oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin.

Oxytocin strengthens the sense of bonding, dopamine amplifies pleasure, and endorphins act as natural painkillers.

Serotonin creates that calm, satisfied feeling afterward. It’s this powerful cocktail of hormones that makes orgasm feel so rewarding and emotionally intense.

What Exactly Is the Fluid Released During Female Ejaculation?

The fluid released during female ejaculation comes from the Skene's glands or ducts which are located on either side of the urethra. It contains prostate-specific antigen PSA and prostate-specific acid phosphatase PSAP, giving it a slightly milky appearance.

Female ejaculate is typically released in smaller amounts than squirting fluid and is often noticed as a warm, thick, and wet sensation rather than a gush.

How Can You Tell If She’s Cumming?

Are you curious if she’s truly reaching that peak? Here are the unmistakable signs that show she’s cumming.

Physical Cues

Expect to see rhythmic contractions of her vaginal muscles, quickened breathing, and flushed skin. Her heart rate spikes, and she might experience involuntary movements, like curling her toes or arching her back. The fluid usually oozes out, in sync with the waves of pleasure rolling through her body.

Emotional Cues

Cumming usually brings a surge of euphoria, followed by a deep sense of connection. Post-orgasm, she might feel relaxed, content, and emotionally bonded. The oxytocin surge contributes to this feeling, while the serotonin crash can leave her feeling blissfully drained.

What Does She Actually Feel During Female Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation involves waves of pulsating pleasure and arousal, building to a peak before tapering off.

Female ejaculation feels more focused around the clitoris and vaginal walls, with a series of pelvic muscle contractions that send ripples through her body.

It’s a more localized sensation than squirting, radiating intense pleasure that leaves her glowing.

Mastering the art of squirting vs. cumming can level up your game—trust me, once you know the difference, she’ll definitely notice!

Alright, those are the basics—but if you’re aiming to be a pro at spotting the difference, let’s bust some common myths about squirting and cumming.

Common Myths On Squirting & Cumming

Alright, it’s time to set the record straight. There’s a lot of misinformation floating around about squirting and female ejaculation that can leave you second-guessing yourself in bed.

Trust me, I’ve heard it all—from the wild theories to the straight-up myths. So, let’s bust these common misconceptions wide open and get you the facts you need to master the art of pleasure confidently.

Myth #1 - Squirting Is Fake

There’s this idea going around that squirting is just a trick pulled in porn—fake, exaggerated, and completely unrealistic.

The Truth

Squirting is as real as it gets. It’s a natural, physiological response that many women experience during sexual arousal, usually tied to G-spot stimulation.

The fluid is released from the bladder, but it's not the same as urine. It’s a unique blend containing prostate-specific antigen (PSA), glucose, and water.

So, if she squirts, believe it—it’s 100% legit.

Myth #2 - Squirting Only Happens During Orgasm

A lot of guys think squirting is the grand finale, something that only happens right at the peak of orgasm.

The Truth

Not even close! Squirting can happen with or without an orgasm. It's more about the right type of stimulation than hitting that orgasmic peak. 

Some women squirt from intense G-spot play alone, while others might squirt during different points of sexual arousal. 

So, don’t get hung up on the idea that squirting equals orgasm—they’re two different things.

Myth #3 - Female Ejaculation & Squirt Liquid Are Pee

Here’s a classic: some believe that female ejaculation and squirting are just women "peeing" during sex.

The Truth

While the squirt fluid does come from the bladder, it’s not urine. It's released through the urethral opening but has a different makeup than urine.

Female ejaculate contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA), glucose, and other components found in male seminal fluid.

Saying both are the same as pee is like comparing apples and oranges—they’re all fluids but serve entirely different bodily purposes.

Myth #4 - Orgasm & Cumming Are The Same

Many people use the terms "orgasm" and "cumming" interchangeably, thinking they’re just two words for the same event.

The Truth

Not exactly. An orgasm is the intense sensation of pleasure, often accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions.

Cumming, or female ejaculation, refers to the release of fluid, which may or may not happen during an orgasm.

Some women orgasm without any fluid release, and others ejaculate without reaching a full climax. So, they’re related but definitely not identical.

Myth #5 - You Can Make A Woman Climax

A lot of guys think they can "make" a woman climax like there’s some secret button to press that guarantees it every time.

The Truth

Climaxing is a complex process involving physical, emotional, and mental factors.

Sure, techniques and communication help, but at the end of the day, every woman’s experience is unique.

You can create the right environment for pleasure, but you can't force a climax. It’s about building trust, understanding her body, and letting things unfold naturally.

So, there you have it—the myths debunked and the facts laid bare. Understanding these distinctions can take the pressure off and lead to a more satisfying sexual experience for both of you. 

Remember, it’s not about ticking off a list of "must-dos" in the bedroom. It’s about tuning in, responding to her cues, and enjoying the journey together.

Squirting and orgasm can both be powerful stand-alone experiences, yet combined they are like an explosion.

Squirting often brings a mix of surprise, excitement, and sometimes even vulnerability, especially if it’s unexpected. It’s not just about the fluid—it’s about a deep sense of release and letting go.

Conversely, orgasming is more about creating tension that culminates in waves of pleasure that leave us feeling content and joyful.
The greatest of both worlds are practically combined when you can combine them both and have a squirting orgasm.

Women typically go through a very dramatic, emotional, and physical experience that ranges from blissful bliss to uncontrollable laughing to tears and deep grief. Every lady has a different squirting orgasm experience.

Here's the issue, though: squirting, orgasming, or a combination of the two should not be viewed as the "goal" or an indicator of the effectiveness of intimacy.